Relationship Coaching
What would you like to know or do about Relationship Coaching?
What is a Relationship?
A relationship is a delicate dance
of two or more persons
who dance to the music of life
choosing a certain style
in the hope of tasting happiness
In the song ‘Wandering Star’ (from the 1969 move Paint Your Wagon) Lee Marvin sang: “Snow can burn your eyes, but only people make you cry…” It’s not so much the things in life, but people that can make our lives miserable (and we can of course do the same to them).
But luckily there’s another side! It is also in the first instance people that add meaning and happiness to our lives!
We interact with people in relationships, which vary from short casual interactions to long term intimate relationships.
Why are relationships sometimes interesting, fulfilling and rewarding and other times bland, frustrating and even destructive? Why do we often experience both a craving for and a fear of intimacy? What is love? (The answers to these questions do exist, and you will be guided to discover them.)
Typical relationships are...
- Family: Parents, Children, Siblings and Other Relatives
- Love: Spouses, Life partners, Lovers, Dating, www relationships
- Friendship: Intimate friends, Friends and Acquaintances
- At work: Colleagues, Employers, Employees, Suppliers and Customers
What can Relationship Coaching do for you?
Some of the most basic factors which influence the quality of our relationships are the following:
- Self-esteem: The degree to which I accept and like myself.
- Communication challenges. My ability to accurately express my thoughts and feelings and whether I am able to really listen, take in and understand.
- Emotional intelligence: The degree to which I am in touch with and understand my own and other people's emotions like love, hope, respect and aspiration, but also fear, jealousy, feeling threatened and resentment.
- Conflict: How I deal with conflict can make the difference between destroying and building relationships.
- Intimacy: We all have both a need and a fear for intimacy.
- Past experiences: These have a major influence on how I see myself, other people and the world.
- A personal crisis: This may cause distress and may preoccupy my thoughts.
Coaching is not therapy, but basically healthy people may, knowingly or unknowingly, be held back from "dancing up the stairway" to the next level of interpersonal fulfilment due to the presence of elements of the above and other hindrances.
Did we say "hindrances"? The truth is that each of the so-called "hindrances" may be transfomed into positive builders of relationships, if we deal with them in a constructive way.
Relationship Coaching will assist you to discover the realities of your current relationships. You should be able to identify factors holding you back from having more satisfying relations with yourself and others.
Whatever it may be that stand in the way of growth towards better relationships: It is possible to change! Your relationship coach will guide you to set realistic goals in this regard.
We have experience of coaching people in all stages of life: Children, teenagers, young adults and not-so-young adults.
The where and how of our coaching
Coaching is most effective when the coach and coachee meet eye to eye, but this is not always possible.
If the person(s) who requires coaching (the "coachee") is in Gauteng, our coach will meet him or her or them somewhere where it is quiet and private. If this entails travelling by the coach, a reasonable fee for travelling will be payable.
If a face-to-face meeting is not possible, arrangements can be made for coach and coachee(s) to communicate online via Skype, Windows Messenger, telephone or email. In the case of coaching via telephone, these calls will have to be made by the coachee. (Contact us here.)
If you prefer coaching to take place in a language other than English or Afrikaans, please enquire beforehand.
Relationship Coaching fees
The first 30 minutes (or the first email) is free of charge. The coachee(s) can then decide whether to continue or not (without any obligation) and the fee of any extended or additional coaching sessions will be negotiated between coach and coachee. The coach may request that the fee for any such additional coaching session be paid upfront.
